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  • Gifted Testing In Singapore From A Parent’s Perspective

    Gifted Testing In Singapore From A Parent’s Perspective

    It was Christmas Eve. My five-year-old was going for an intelligence assessment. I had driven for half an hour to an old estate in the south of Singapore and I crossed a run-down looking overhead bridge and reached the place. When we entered the centre, the owner came to say hi but El was quiet. She commented he was shy, and I wondered how true that was. El was then led to a small room with a psychologist, who is experienced with gifted children. I was seated in the corridor with a questionnaire to fill in. I had selected this late morning time slot so that El would be wide awake.

    I had not expected to be asked questions about El’s birth stats, and his milestones. With two children, I just wanted them to meet their milestones. I had forgotten exactly when. When did he start sitting up? When did he start crawling? I tried to figure out some of the information. I remembered that El started talking around 2 years old. He started walking after turning one, but I could not be sure which month it was.

    I was quizzed on his behaviour in class and interaction. I suddenly realised that El had problems paying attention in class. Even in art classes which he had asked for, he did not focus. I was also quizzed on his skills in language and mathematics. Actually, I did not really know because I did not spend much time with him on Mathematics. I only knew he could do complicated addition and subtraction, but still get seven plus seven wrong.

    While reading his school reports, I was shocked to see how little his teachers had stretched him. In nursery, the teacher wrote he could count from 1 – 50. In K1, his teacher wrote that he could count from 1 – 20. Did his ability to count to 50 or more disappear suddenly? No, it was more of how much the teacher knew how what he knew.

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    I could not remember the exact time El was in there. I could not finish by the time he was done. It was the psychologist’s turn to talk to me. He mentioned that El warmed up very quickly. He remarked that El was intelligent and went through the questionnaire with me. I shared with him some of his behaviour and my concerns.

    He asked why I had wanted El to take the test. This is Singapore, where acceleration is near to impossible in mainstream schools, except for exceptionally gifted (EG) children, and gifted children are only identified at the age of 9. I guess I wanted to know whether he was gifted and how gifted he was, if he were. He told me that El was gifted, but the exact score would be revealed after he had crunched the numbers.

    On our way home, El was busy eating a slice of pizza which I had bought earlier, and I asked him what was tested. He said he had forgotten them, but could describe a silly picture in detail to me. He mentioned they also used blocks, after I repeatedly asked him.

    I had originally decided against testing. It is not cheap, and there is nothing much one could do with the results. I found a place for IQ assessment after googling. When I had checked out MOE’s website, there was something on acceleration for exceptionally gifted children. It would require testing either with the Stanford Binet V or WISC IV for MOE to recognise him. Was he in that range? While I could check off a number of criteria listed by on that page, there were other criteria that were not that strong.

    One factor that had influenced my decision was the choice of school. The Ministry of Education (Singapore) had mentioned that EG students could find their own school. I had read the EG criteria over and over again, and felt that many of them applied to El. Could he be somewhat near that range in terms of intellectual capacity? I felt that there was a need to find out.

    If there was a possibility that El could get into the Gifted Education Programme (GEP) at 10 years old, wouldn’t it be good if he could go into a school that was offering the programme right from the start at 7? There would be less disruption in terms of change. There is such a school that is not too far away from my place, a school I would like my children to get into, but it is near to impossible due to its popularity and a large number of alumni who get priority over other children. I like that school because it has a strong bilingualism environment, something I strongly believe in. If the mainstream school route does not work out, then I would have to seriously consider homeschooling.

    Another factor was El told me he did not enjoy kindergarten as it was boring. He said he learnt more at home than in school. The thought of him learning sight words such as ‘a’, ‘the’, ‘on’, ‘I’, ‘he’ and other simple words for another year had quite an effect on me. He had already known how to read and spell multi-syllabic words. He told me he would like to have something more challenging. As a mother, I should do something about it.

    However, despite that, I was still procrastinating on testing El due to a heavy workload. It was a stroke of luck when I managed to speak to a friend with a child in somewhat similar shoes. She told me about how the gifted branch at MOE could provide advice.

    MENSA would be another avenue for El to meet intellectual peers. To get into MENSA junior, they would require an IQ assessment, since they only carry out testing for 14 years and above. She provided me information on various psychologists. One of them was one whom I had contacted earlier, so I thought out of courtesy and convenience I would continue with that option.

    With these in mind, El took the assessment. A few weeks after that, I had received his report. While I was wistfully hopeful that he could be EG so that he could have acceleration, realistically I thought he was just gifted. I was shocked by his results nevertheless. He is not EG, but the scores (based on norms from US children) are still pretty high, far higher than what I had expected. His intellectual capacity is currently similar to that of a 9-year-old. This boy would probably cruise through primary school in most subjects and not be challenged at all, except for Chinese Language. Then he would be in for a rude shock when he reaches a higher level, and has not acquired the right study skills to cope with a more demanding curriculum. When that happens, it would be too late.

    I was a little hesitant to let El take the Stanford Binet 5 test because the WISC IV is the one that is really great for verbal kids. However, since he is born late in the year, getting him to do the WISC IV (which only tests children 6 years and above) would be too late in terms of school enrolment. The SB5 test components include Fluid Reasoning, Knowledge, Quantitative Reasoning, Visual-Spatial Processing, and Working Memory in both Verbal and Non-verbal domains. However, his non-verbal scores turned out to be slightly higher than his verbal scores. I wonder whether the WISC IV score would be slightly different, since the verbal component is greater. The psychologist mentioned that El was very visual, and this was evident from his description of the silly pictures in his test. Perhaps this explains why El is always coming up with very specific names for dinosaur pictures and toys when he sees the toys or books. I see T-Rex, he sees muttaburrasaurus (two very different types of dinosaurs, one carnivorous and the other herbivorous).

    Now that I have El’s test results, does that change anything? He is still the same child. I did not reveal the purpose of the test to him. Perhaps not much in terms of academics, since he would not be able to accelerate. I would do what most kiasu Singaporean parents (Tiger Moms, anyone?) would do – afterschooling. He could do additional work at home or at enrichment centres to stretch him.

    At the very least, at least El’s father and I are on the same page. Even after the testing, when the psychologist mentioned that El was gifted before the release of the IQ report, my husband was worried that he would turn out not to be gifted after calculation. Now, he does not deny that El is gifted and that we should handle him accordingly. We also gained some parenting tips and advice from the psychologist, who suggested that El should pick up violin, which would do a fidgety boy good.

    I think it is time to walk the talk, and do more to be an advocate for my child. Perhaps my child’s current teachers would finally not think I am a deluded parent who thinks her child is gifted.

    This blog is part of Hoagies’ Gifted Education Page Blog Hop on Testing.

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  • El Gets International Pen Pals

    El Gets International Pen Pals

    Pen pals! Do you remember the time when you paid a few dollars to get pen pals from all over the world? There was a service which my classmates told me about.

    I remember I had pen pals from Indonesia, Hong Kong and Italy. The one from Hong Kong lasted the longest, because I think we liked Andy Lau. Or was that the one from Indonesia? I remember learning how to write traditional Chinese script because that was what the one from Hong Kong wrote to me in. Her English was not good, so we used Chinese to communicate, even though she was probably thinking in Cantonese then.

    I learnt my Chinese words through the lyrics from my Andy Lau CD sleeves. I had a table that showed both the simplified and traditional versions, so that it would be easier for me to keep track. Then, probably we got too busy, and then we stopped. Emails became popular then.

    Just recently, Hoagies’ decided to start a thread on finding penpals for the young ones. I volunteered El and a few responded. The children were similar in ages and had some common interests. I was looking for true peers for El. The first two were A and E. One is from USA and the other is from UK. Both were a year older than El.

    I told El to write something.

    He was so excited that he thought they would visit Singapore. I told him to write about some of his favourite things. He wrote everything without punctuation, so I asked him to add them in. Next, I told him to draw some pictures to decorate the cards. It is interesting to see that he drew a flower for E and dinosaurs (allosaurus and fabrosaurus) for A.
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    With the letters written, I bought the stamps. It costs S$1.30 to send to Europe and USA.
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    I got him to stick them and then we posted the letters.

    There was a letter box just outside our place. He chose the ‘Other Countries’ slot and pushed the letters in.
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    After about 8 to 10 days, one of them said her child had received El’s letter. A few days later, we received both letters!
    El was very excited about the letters.
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    el opening his letter

    He read them aloud. He actually thought that E’s birthday was a few days from his, because she wrote a date there. He also liked the pictures they drew. I guess all the children love to draw!

    Gar also wants a piece of the action!
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    Now, we will find time to write a reply. He did not seem to understand the word ‘reply’ that much, but already he is wondering what to write. I gave him some suggestions in the car about that when he broached the subject, so I guess he has an idea on what to write.
    Hope this is sustainable in a world of emails.

  • Self Care – Setting Physical and Mental Health Goals

    Self Care – Setting Physical and Mental Health Goals

    “I will take care of me for you if you will take care of you for me.” — Jim Rohn

    It was the June holidays, and I thought I had all the time to do whatever I wanted. I could take El to a museum, Gar to a playground, or just let the two boys play together. Instead, I ended sick, with fever. After a few days, the fever finally subsided, but I had a cough that did not go away.

    I went to my former GP, and took the medication. In the afternoon, I had a severe headache that would not go away. At night, I could not sleep at all and I felt my heart racing. The next day, I felt my head was going to burst. I ran my head under the cold water. I only felt better for a short moment.

    My mother drove me to a 24-hour clinic just opposite my apartment. It was that bad that I could not even cross the road on my own. After checking the medicine and a dusty manual, the doctor said that I was probably having a bad reaction to codeine. That was one of the main ingredients in the cough mixture.

    I took the new medication, but I still did not feel well enough. I went to another doctor, who gave me new medication, and after finishing the cough mixture, I was still coughing. He decided to change the medication, and this time round, I had the severe headache again. Up till today, I am not entirely sure why I had problems with certain cough mixtures.

    For the next eight weeks when I had gone back to work, I was coughing all the time. I felt my sinus cavities filling up with mucus whenever I taught in the classroom. I had coughing fits, and there were lots of phlegm.

    I avoided chicken (based on Chinese traditional medicine recommendations) and eggs. I avoided cooling fruits such as water melon and oranges. I ended up eating salmon with rice from the Japanese stall for the longest time. I have not eaten that dish ever since recovering.

    I could not exercise, and felt breathless. I had taken my health for granted. I took herbal drinks and mixtures. I finally tried Chinese medicine, with one dosage costing $25, and after spending more than $150 for a few days worth of bitter powder, I finally recovered.

    Unfortunately that led to a bad acne outbreak, something which I did not have since my awkward teen years. My flawless skin was no more, and I had lots of big angry red bumps. This was probably due to the heaty Chinese medicine, and the lack of Vitamin C.

    My stamina was gone (I could only last 5 minutes in the swimming pool) and I was lethargic. I decided enough was enough, and I really needed to take good care of myself. My time with my children was limited to avoid passing the germs to them. It was a hectic term in school and I did not have enough energy for my students.

    Just like what Jim Rohn said, we really need to have self care so that we would not be a burden to others. I am no superwoman. It is time to take care of myself. My children need me and my students need me. I need to be in tip top condition before I can really be there for others. I have signed up for a 100-day challenge, to finish 2014 strong, instead of waiting till 2015 to set new resolutions. I have decided on two types of health goals.

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    Physical Health Goals
    1. Swim weekly. (The pool is just downstairs. What excuse can I use? Well, I could get myself a flattering new swimming costume because the tankini top is rolling up. I just can’t shed the post-pregnancy flab. Wait, those that I see in the nearby stores are just not nice enough.)

    2. Sign up for a weekly Zumba or yoga class at a nearby Community Club. (I had procrastinated on it and some of the classes are full already. Why do I keep taking the schedule but not sign up? What am I waiting for? I guess I should find time to go off early from work. Exercise mats? I have so many playmats for my children. I could use them for my yoga poses at home.)

    3. Run on the threadmill at gym at my place weekly. (I should get a new pair of exercise shoes one size bigger.)

    4. Eat fruits daily. (I do that only when I am at work.)

    5. Eat just enough calories and not more. (I take less rice, and avoid having two big meals at work.)

    6. Go for regular facials so that I can look great. (I have already paid a fortune for lots of sessions. I just have to make sure I do not cancel.)

    For my mental health goals, I shall focus on my hobbies and relaxation.

    Mental Health Goals
    1. Read weekly. (I get an hour and a half to myself when I wait for El to finish his Mandarin speech and drama lessons every week. I have read Singapore Noir, a really great book on fictional crimes in Singapore written in a fatalistic and sensational manner by some of the famous local writers. I am still reading The Leader In Me, about how to inculcate 7 highly effective habits in children and students.)

    2. Limit my TV time. (I love to watch television, but I am more selective of the shows I watch. I like to read the synopsis ahead, to see whether the show is worth my time. Sometimes I watch cartoons with my children. Gar, my two-year-old, has watched Dinosaur Train so many times with his brother that he could say the names of those dinosaurs and name their colours before they appear. )

    3. Spend time to do reflection on my work and goals weekly. (We should take time to reflect and think of how to become better.)

    4. Laugh daily. (I love all the jokes and funny videos of cute animals and children. My children make me laugh with their funny quips and jokes. A happy person keeps the doctor away.)

    5. Think positive. (I have improved much over the years, where I am more positive instead of negative. It is still a work in progress though.)

    6. Have me time. (I realised that I have a quota of spending time with children after reading Tabitha Ferreira’s article on Mommy Needs A Time Out. I have overexcitabilities. Too much stimulation makes me uncomfortable. I spend hours in school with students, and sometimes after spending a few hours with my children at home in the evening, I just cannot wait to have my own me time. I need time to unwind, if not I will feel really frazzled.)

    Well, these are my physical and mental health goals for 2014. What are yours? Share your top health goals (both physical and mental) here and be accountable for them. Check back here by the end of 2014 and see whether you have reached your goals.

    This post is part of Hoagies’ Gifted Blog Hops on Self Care.
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