Bishan Park and Grub

Despite living in a concrete jungle, we are surrounded by a lot of greenery. There is a lovely park at Bishan, and the canal had been transformed into a river. We brought Gar there during a late Sunday afternoon. He insisted on bringing Barney along, which he affectionately calls Boon-deh.
Gar and Barney

He jumped off our arms and wanted to walk around. He held our fingers with his little hand.
Bishan Park

We brought him to the dog park, and he saw a lot of little dogs, and big dogs. He giggled when the dogs barked.

We also ventured into the river itself, which was almost dry save for a little trickle when there was no rain. There were frogs.

Bishan Park river

We saw people skating at the other corner.
Bishan Park Gar

We were looking for Grub, a restaurant that is feted for serving eco-friendly food, but could not find it.

The following week, after searching for the directions, we discovered it was at the further end of Bishan Park, nearer to Sin Ming. There was a long queue, which we could check the status on my phone. As I did not mind dining outside, we managed to get a table about half an hour later despite still having many people in front of us in the queue.

This time round, we brought El along too, so the brothers were chasing each other at a nearby pavilion while waiting. We also fed Gar his dinner while waiting.

I tried the slow roasted pork belly. It was a bit weird to eat sio bak at a western restaurant, but I ordered it anyway. I have always hated mango, but decided to give the mango sauce a try. Surprisingly, I liked the sauce. The food was not too bad.

El asked for Truffled egg cocotte, but stopped eating after taking a bite. He then had fries from our plate, but we ordered more and could not finish. I was surprised they did not have a kids’ menu, or something more kid’s friendly, but perhaps the cuisine was just not suitable for him as he was not that adventurous with food.

Gar tried fries, and from then on, he wanted fries with his meals.

Too bad we did not take any pictures. The staff was quite attentive. I was recommended a dessert, but I could not remember what it was. It was not to my liking. I think it was too sweet.

If we had bought a unit at a nearby condo, perhaps we would take a walk at Bishan Park regularly, but since we have a pool at our own place and I had not stepped into the pool in half a year, perhaps we might not.

Parents and Teachers

After I have become a parent, I start to review the way I teach, the things I do, and the things I say. Instead of just being a teacher, I start to put myself in the shoes of the parents, and think of what they really want to hear, and how exactly we can help them.

It is all too easy to say ‘your son needs to pay more attention in class’, ‘your daughter did not do her homework’ and ‘your son is weak in English’. It is as if parents have the magical answers to solve these problems themselves. If they had the answers, they would not need the teachers.

Now that I am a parent, I finally understand how important words can be. I am also able to observe my sons’ teachers, and learn from them.

For example, my son’s former teachers would keep me updated on his progress. They would always have something nice to say when I picked him up from school. When there were issues, they highlighted them to me, but they offered suggestions, and they worked on the problems in school too. Of course, the class size is very small, with 5 to 8 students, and there are 2 teachers in the classroom, so they could really work their magic.

That was big in contrast to my son’s new teacher, who just said that it was the first day of school and she had nothing to say about my son. If there were issues, then she would contact me. I felt terrible when I heard that. Did she care about my son? Perhaps it was because the class size is much bigger at this new school, with around 20 students, and she had too many students to observe in a short period of time.

I had read books that said I should contact parents right at the start, and I should say nice things, but I never really got to it. There are 40 in a class, and with my other subject classes, I had more than 160 students. With all the time spent on lesson preparation, marking, holding CCAs, and attending workshops and meetings, there was little time left. By the time I called, it was usually to inform them about misbehaviours or poor results.

During parent-teacher meetings, we mainly talk about results and behaviours. Sometimes parents take leave to come to the meetings, and they end up hearing things that they do not know how to handle.

I had been listening to How to Talk so Kids Can Learn, and there was a section on how parents feel about teachers, and how teachers feel about parents. One point was quite poignant. Feedback from teachers are seen as a report card on the parents’ parenting skills. So when a teacher calls to say the child has misbehaved, the parent feels as if he or she has been dealt an ‘F’ on the report card.

In addition, sometimes by the time teachers call, it is near to impossible to complete 15 assignments within a week when marks are due. I am guilty of that, and that is why I have made up my mind to improve myself.

Conversations should be two-way. The teachers should find out more from the parents, and offer solutions. In my first year of teaching, my colleague told that to me, and I am very grateful to her for constantly sharing with me.

I had started the year poorly, by calling parents up to tell them their children’s hairstyles were unacceptable. The next round of calls I had to make was not better. The students had not completed their work. I decided to look for something positive I could say about their child, which delighted them, before I talked about the issue. There were really positive things about their child. They had been friendly, helpful, and they had made some improvements from previous years. Of course, I still have room for improvement and I should by calling them much earlier to establish a positive relationship before I have to talk about something negative.

With regards to praises and criticisms, the audio recording also mentions that it is important to describe the behaviour, instead of making judgments on the character. For example, if your child comes home with a good piece of work, don’t just say, ‘Fantastic, you are a genius!’ The child may feel that you are insincere, and he may also feel that he does not deserve it. Instead, say that I am proud that you managed to spell nine words correctly, or you have revised sufficiently for the chapter.

If there is something to improve, do not label the child stupid or naughty. Just state the behaviour.

At the same time, parents should not be over-demanding, or do helicopter parenting by hovering constantly around the child and the teacher. Of course, this is much better than parents who do not do anything.

I am still learning from many people.

Carnival at East Coast Park

Every year, El’s former preschool will hold a carnival at East Coast Park for children from all their branches. I had brought him there in 2012, and my parents brought him there in 2013.

IMG_3754 They have a lot of little booths manned by teachers for children to play and win prizes. I think he won a lot of stickers.IMG_3757  He enjoys the snacks after playing.

IMG_3766 When I had brought him there previously, he went up to the bouncy castle, and when he came down, he had a bad nose bleed. I think he was hit in the nose by another child, but the teachers tended to him immediately. I was actually freaking out as I had not encountered something like this. Someone taught me to pinch the nose a little, and put ice to cool the body down. Hence, I was quite surprised to see him play on the bouncy castle this time round, without another fear.

 

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I think it was pretty late when he went there, so he did not really meet many of his schoolmates.

They had face painting, and other games, and also had performances by professionals. The children enjoyed the carnival.

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